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Re: Religion

Postby cacahuate86 » Sat Mar 13, 2021 5:08 pm

MixedCouple wrote:
ifoundmycookies wrote:20 to marry??? thats so young


Nope. I know loads of people including my mother who married at 18 - 20 and they are in stable hapoy marriages with children. It's not young if you are mature and have you life togther.
I woykd havw loved to marry at 20 but was not decreed for me. I met my hubby at the ripe old age of 33 😆
Yeah, but that's husband #2... perhaps if you'd waited to get married and test-driven douchebag husband #1 instead of married him right away, you wouldn't have had to go through a divorce.
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Re: Religion

Postby flopsy » Sat Mar 13, 2021 8:59 pm

I married when I was 27. I could have married at 18-20 years old but I chose to wait. I wanted to enjoy life single for awhile and I did. I wouldn't have exchanged any of those experiences/memories with being married young. All those experiences have helped me later in life. I would have missed out on so many things if I had married young. Was it easy? Not always. I was considered an "old maid" by many because I married so late. Everyone my age was married and had started families by the time I got married. It wasn't always easy watching others much younger than me getting married, but they all married young while I was still footloose and carefree. I had so much work and was always busy that I didn't have much time to dwell on the matter. But not everyone is me. I know many other couples that married young and are still happily married.
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Re: Religion

Postby cacahuate86 » Sat Mar 13, 2021 9:33 pm

I'm happily married and I married young, too by Central European standards. But I've known my husband all my life and I've known that I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life since I was 12 (we didn't get together until I was of a more appropriate age... not that he had any interest in me when I was a kid anyway. But when I decided it was time to snag him, I was a woman on the prowl! Poor guy stood no chance :lol:).
That's not really how it happens for most young women though. And I wasn't really the one who saw the need to get married anyway. I was happy just being with him, I never actually thought we'd get married. I really didn't care either way, marriage is just a piece of paper to me. But my husband is very religious and even though he didn't think it'd bother him a lot when we first got together, it turned out that he did mind not being married after all. So four years (and three proposals) in, I decided what the heck... if it makes him happy... just sign the document. :)
We've been married for 11 years now and I can honestly say, being married changed nothing for me. I'm as in love with him and as committed to him as I was the first day we got together. But it did change something for him. He became much more settled in the relationship after we got married. He's always been the calm to my storm, but he says the pride he feels in me having chosen to attach myself to him legally... that I'd sign my name under that fact... was a very satisfying feeling (even though it's so very not politically correct :D). But I did keep my own name. That was very important to me.

Anyway, if you're sure, you're sure. But there is no rush, even if you've found the person for you. Just be together for a few years, move in together, share a bit of your life with each other, make sure you fit into each other's lives properly before you decide to share the rest of it with this other person. Divorces are just unnecessarily painful and expensive.
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Re: Religion

Postby Lou30 » Sat Mar 13, 2021 10:28 pm

I can have it when I'm ready I don't have a religion but i support the people who do
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Re: Religion

Postby Booitslilac8 » Wed Mar 17, 2021 8:19 pm

No religion for me! I'm a Hebrew Israelite😎
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Re: Religion

Postby Kai-T_Chai-Tea » Fri Apr 09, 2021 12:32 am

lemotamer234 wrote:Ok here's the thing...
So in my religion we are not allowed to date, we can get engaged and when you go out with ur man someone has to be with you (mostly ur bro) and I just don't like it I mean I see all thes youtubers dating and u know ...and then I just feel like I'm odd or left out and it's driving me craaaaaazyyy😓tell me what you think about it and tell me what happens in ur religion and how u deal with it cuz that will make me feel better🥰🥰


My dad legit tried to set me up with an arranged marriage two years ago. I’m almost 16 (and have a boyfriend I got with no help) I’m Lutheran, and they’re like “no sexual activity, touching, intercourse, or porn watching until you are married” but thou hast said “screw that” and basically we’re gonna do what we want and it’s literally no one else’s business. I think you should have the same mindset, you do what you want because it’s no one else’s business.
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Re: Religion

Postby Panda2020 » Fri Apr 09, 2021 6:43 pm

Kai-T_Chai-Tea wrote:
lemotamer234 wrote:Ok here's the thing...
So in my religion we are not allowed to date, we can get engaged and when you go out with ur man someone has to be with you (mostly ur bro) and I just don't like it I mean I see all thes youtubers dating and u know ...and then I just feel like I'm odd or left out and it's driving me craaaaaazyyy😓tell me what you think about it and tell me what happens in ur religion and how u deal with it cuz that will make me feel better🥰🥰


My dad legit tried to set me up with an arranged marriage two years ago. I’m almost 16 (and have a boyfriend I got with no help) I’m Lutheran, and they’re like “no sexual activity, touching, intercourse, or porn watching until you are married” but thou hast said “screw that” and basically we’re gonna do what we want and it’s literally no one else’s business. I think you should have the same mindset, you do what you want because it’s no one else’s business.

Seriously??? I'm not even going to reply to your posts anymore. There a load of cr*p. It's just a waste of time.
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Re: Religion

Postby PositiveVibes08 » Fri Apr 09, 2021 6:46 pm

^Couldn't have said it better myself.
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Re: Religion

Postby Wolves2018 » Fri Apr 09, 2021 7:42 pm

Kai-T_Chai-Tea wrote:
lemotamer234 wrote:Ok here's the thing...
So in my religion we are not allowed to date, we can get engaged and when you go out with ur man someone has to be with you (mostly ur bro) and I just don't like it I mean I see all thes youtubers dating and u know ...and then I just feel like I'm odd or left out and it's driving me craaaaaazyyy😓tell me what you think about it and tell me what happens in ur religion and how u deal with it cuz that will make me feel better🥰🥰


My dad legit tried to set me up with an arranged marriage two years ago. I’m almost 16 (and have a boyfriend I got with no help) I’m Lutheran, and they’re like “no sexual activity, touching, intercourse, or porn watching until you are married” but thou hast said “screw that” and basically we’re gonna do what we want and it’s literally no one else’s business. I think you should have the same mindset, you do what you want because it’s no one else’s business.

*scratching my head*
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Re: Religion

Postby cacahuate86 » Sat Apr 10, 2021 6:23 am

Oh, now the abused wannabe cinderella teen mom with breast cancer and a penchant for insurance fraud also was sold into marriage at 13.
This is just getting better and better :lol:
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