Trust

Trust

Postby Kearstenk » Mon Mar 22, 2021 7:33 pm

PARENTS!! How can I be more trust worthy to earn my socials back after I sent n*des. Also, my parents when they found out it makes me upset because I did that for a reason and my parents they always immediately chose to punish me right away instead of asking me if im okay or why I did it. And the truth is. I did it because the whole 14 years I've been alive me and my dad have never been close. He never shows me how a boy/guy is supposed to treat me. I am also self conscious and when guys ask me for those things they always tell me that I look good or they just ultimately make me feel better about myself by complimenting me. But when I try to tell my parents why they tell me im lying or overreacting. And it hurts because I just want them to be there for me and understand. Any advice? And I have no contact with anyone but this happened five months ago. Since then I have really took time to self reflect to make sure that when I do get my social media back that it doesn't happen again. I've even assured that to my parents and im really proud of how far I've come mentally and I think I've really matured.
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Re: Trust

Postby theater_brat » Mon Mar 22, 2021 9:20 pm

well i’d have a conversation with them, or write them a very professional letter. maybe even include rules such as, no phone in room at night, certain times can be on social media, etc
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Re: Trust

Postby Kearstenk » Mon Mar 22, 2021 11:54 pm

Maybe, my phone locks at 8:30 and it always has. I was thinking and im willing for my mom to have full access to my social medias. Because not being able to talk to people sucks. So I think I might talk to them about that.
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Re: Trust

Postby SkylaBell » Wed Mar 31, 2021 6:17 am

Could you try talking to your Dad? Maybe explain that you want a closer relationship and need words of affirmation. This way you will be less likely to repeat your mistakes. Plus it would be a good idea to practise some self love. YouTube would probably be good for this. It’s a good idea to have a social media contract with your parents.
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Re: Trust

Postby Kai-T_Chai-Tea » Thu Apr 08, 2021 10:33 am

Kearstenk wrote:PARENTS!! How can I be more trust worthy to earn my socials back after I sent n*des. Also, my parents when they found out it makes me upset because I did that for a reason and my parents they always immediately chose to punish me right away instead of asking me if im okay or why I did it. And the truth is. I did it because the whole 14 years I've been alive me and my dad have never been close. He never shows me how a boy/guy is supposed to treat me. I am also self conscious and when guys ask me for those things they always tell me that I look good or they just ultimately make me feel better about myself by complimenting me. But when I try to tell my parents why they tell me im lying or overreacting. And it hurts because I just want them to be there for me and understand. Any advice? And I have no contact with anyone but this happened five months ago. Since then I have really took time to self reflect to make sure that when I do get my social media back that it doesn't happen again. I've even assured that to my parents and im really proud of how far I've come mentally and I think I've really matured.

It sounds like your parents are very toxic and emotionally abusive. I did the same thing and my dad and his wife freaked out the way your parents did, but my mom asked me what happened and why. If I were you, I’d write them a note telling them what happened so you can say it uninterrupted, leave it somewhere where they will find it, and wait.
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Re: Trust

Postby Kearstenk » Sat Apr 10, 2021 8:04 pm

I'm glad I'm not alone. If I may ask did u do the same?
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Re: Trust

Postby Kai-T_Chai-Tea » Sat Apr 10, 2021 11:39 pm

Kearstenk wrote:I'm glad I'm not alone. If I may ask did u do the same?

Mine wasn’t sending nudes, it was general sexting and reading/watching porn
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Re: Trust

Postby Kearstenk » Sun Apr 11, 2021 9:21 pm

I got in trouble for watching it too but its normal
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Re: Trust

Postby Selenelion » Sun Apr 11, 2021 9:27 pm

It's also illegal and can give your computer viruses. Best to stay off it until you are 18.
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Re: Trust

Postby Sunshine Lover » Sun Apr 11, 2021 9:33 pm

I am not going to lie, I've looked at images before too. But what I will say is you should not be watching porn ever let alone if you're still a minor.
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