He prefers porn to s*x

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He prefers porn to s*x

Postby LittleLostLamb » Mon Mar 08, 2021 3:03 pm

My partner of ten years is pretty much everything I need in life and want in life but recently the s*x has stopped and I've been noticing porn in history when I bring this up he curves it completely and says it was a one off etc but then it reappears. I blocked porn sites from the TV yesterday and this morning had s*x for first time in weeks and later on in day I mention he won't be able to access porn anymore anyway because I've blocked it on the TV and he said he unblocked then proceeded to show me by getting the porn site up if that wasn't enough he even typed in "hardcore s*x scenes" I lost it. I hit the roof saying what the f**k was he attempting to achieve by this he later went on to apologize and say it was wrong and insensitive. It's ruined my day, I just wanted to know if anyone related or felt how I feel.. as I feel so alone in this situation and pretty small tbh that he'd rather watch porn to having actual s*x.
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Re: He prefers porn to s*x

Postby Roxysmom45 » Mon Mar 08, 2021 3:22 pm

I've caught both my husbands. It affected my first marriage in the beginning but not long. I take it from your response by blocking the sites that you don't want it in your household at all. He might disagree with this and that's why he unblocked the access. Could be a problem for you two and may need to come to an understanding when he watches it to not bother you. Or maybe he wants to hide it because he doesn't think you'll understand his "needs". Talk to him more about what to do.
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Re: He prefers porn to s*x

Postby Walitza » Mon Mar 08, 2021 10:06 pm

My man to use to watch porn and he told me it was because I wasn't giving him any play like that, which was true. You should ask him why he be watching porn when your right there. Sometimes guys need more and with that being said SOMETIMES s*x GETS BORING WITH DOING THE SAME THING, SO TRY DOING OTHER THINGS LIKE ROLE PLAY , s*x TOYS, DIFFERENT s*x POSITIONS, s*x GAMES OR EVEN WATCHING PORN TOGETHER.You have to have the conversation. I don't mind my man watching porn because I watch it myself and at times together , as long as it's me he's f**cking I'm good.
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Re: He prefers porn to s*x

Postby OhyouTHATbtch » Thu Mar 11, 2021 3:51 am

Currently in the same boat. My boyfriend n I havent had s*x for a week n even when we did (twice last week..)I would still find porn in his history from later in the night. He hides it now but still never gets close to me or asks me after I mentioned how I felt. Not that I'm upset he masturbates, just when he would rather spend the day doing it than asking me.. n the fact that the s*x wasnt enough so he decides he needs porn after? Our s*x isnt even bad I thought. Exotic even. But its putting me so down like I'm failing or that what's the point of the relationship if we arent even making love. So I feel you on this. Guess I needed to vent too.
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Re: He prefers porn to s*x

Postby LittleLostLamb » Tue Mar 16, 2021 6:54 am

Roxysmom45 wrote:I've caught both my husbands. It affected my first marriage in the beginning but not long. I take it from your response by blocking the sites that you don't want it in your household at all. He might disagree with this and that's why he unblocked the access. Could be a problem for you two and may need to come to an understanding when he watches it to not bother you. Or maybe he wants to hide it because he doesn't think you'll understand his "needs". Talk to him more about what to do.



I Only have three issues, 3. It's hardcore sometimes degrading things I've seen on his history 2. For months he called me paranoid for months before he finally started admitting once caught and number one the most important is he's stopped sleep with me.
Probably because im less attractive than these pornstars.
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Re: He prefers porn to s*x

Postby LittleLostLamb » Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:00 am

Walitza wrote:My man to use to watch porn and he told me it was because I wasn't giving him any play like that, which was true. You should ask him why he be watching porn when your right there. Sometimes guys need more and with that being said SOMETIMES s*x GETS BORING WITH DOING THE SAME THING, SO TRY DOING OTHER THINGS LIKE ROLE PLAY , s*x TOYS, DIFFERENT s*x POSITIONS, s*x GAMES OR EVEN WATCHING PORN TOGETHER.You have to have the conversation. I don't mind my man watching porn because I watch it myself and at times together , as long as it's me he's f**cking I'm good.


Thanks for that I don't feel so alone now after such response, we did watch porn together I think it was twice but he insisted he wanted to watch me not porn. I think he prefers to watch it alone. And when I suggest role play ( something I'm seriously into! ) He's not so confident although he was amazing years ago when we have it a go. My problem is the content I seen on his history, teen hardcore, sometimes degrading etc... Plus he stopped sleeping with me and when I confronted him few times he'd either lose his temper call me paranoid and make me out to question my sanity but not sleeping with me and watching porn so when we do sleep together I've found him often going slack... What would you do...
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Re: He prefers porn to s*x

Postby LittleLostLamb » Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:06 am

OhyouTHATbtch wrote:Currently in the same boat. My boyfriend n I havent had s*x for a week n even when we did (twice last week..)I would still find porn in his history from later in the night. He hides it now but still never gets close to me or asks me after I mentioned how I felt. Not that I'm upset he masturbates, just when he would rather spend the day doing it than asking me.. n the fact that the s*x wasnt enough so he decides he needs porn after? Our s*x isnt even bad I thought. Exotic even. But its putting me so down like I'm failing or that what's the point of the relationship if we arent even making love. So I feel you on this. Guess I needed to vent too.


You actually are the closest to relate.. it's made me feel so small.. he doesn't realize he's left his google account on my phone I check his history and turns my stomach "teen hardcore..." You know the rest and it's like you may aswell sleep with them while you're at it because if you're getting self gratification from it it's a for of sexual pleasure that over the real deal with your girlfriend.. like I made a move after seeing porn in history and started off good and suddenly slack. Makes me feel soo unattractive .. wish I had more before like yourself to talk to as you seem to relate alot x
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Re: He prefers porn to s*x

Postby OhyouTHATbtch » Tue Mar 16, 2021 11:29 pm

I can relate in understanding the anger n feeling unattractive. I know it's normal n ok(even healthy) for men to mastur**te. It's hard to actually be ok with it for me, no matter how many times I say it's ok. But at the end of the day at least hes with you n not out cheating. Like in my case my boyfriend n I have been thru a lot to get where we are today n we know we dont wanna lose what we have. The sacrifices/decusions that weve made cant let something so small get in between us - n that goes both ways.
I just let it go best I can n hold my tongue because I know hes with me at the end of the day n loves me. It's frustrating but communication is key
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Re: He prefers porn to s*x

Postby OhyouTHATbtch » Tue Mar 16, 2021 11:39 pm

I will add on tho after reading what the other girls have said n rereading the post..
Trying new things is a great option if hes open to it. 10 years is a long time n maybe he just needs a lil spice, youd be surprised how "degrading" things may be pleasurable. Maybe try something subtle like choking, hair pulling, spanking.. really just something he might be into. Just make it known to him that you want him to be turned on from you n youre willing to try new things.

Also, what I've learned, don't take away/block the option for him to madturbate.. it only makes men want to do it more when you tell them not to. Or at least my man did
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Re: He prefers porn to s*x

Postby Misska » Thu May 06, 2021 5:57 pm

I have same problem with my boyfriend he was more into porn than doing it with me. I talk to him about it and he just hidr it with me. I lost my selfesteem a bit because of this I doubt myself because of his action
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