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Re: intimacy

PostPosted: Thu May 06, 2021 7:55 pm
by 786girl
I think you are a beautiful soul that wants to see the best in people. However, I do think your DH may be gay

Re: intimacy

PostPosted: Fri May 07, 2021 4:15 pm
by Wambui mbugua
Move on with your life ...you partner clearly isn't into you anymore and there's nothing you can do about it. Don't live in an empty marriage

Re: intimacy

PostPosted: Sat May 08, 2021 7:08 pm
by GRT68
That ain't cool. I've been there, I just left

Re: intimacy

PostPosted: Sun May 09, 2021 12:51 pm
by Sweetbossy84
Sounds like he may be hetero A-sexual.

Re: intimacy

PostPosted: Mon May 10, 2021 12:11 pm
by -Maveryck-
Oh honey :( This sounds very serious. Very parallel with behaviors of extramarital affairs. You deserve so much better.

Re: intimacy

PostPosted: Mon May 10, 2021 6:23 pm
by Anonymouslove
Honey its not you! The porn they watch makes them feel disconnected and eventually will cause problems in the relationship! It angrys me when things like this are not talked about when in reality its a huge problem!! Just look up the brain on porn... get him out of it or it will definitely take a toll in him and your relationship as this behavior becomes addicting..no matter how beautiful you are their brain will want more and more and more because its a High to them. Maybe ask yourself if he has a porn addiction and ask him as well? If he really loves you both can work at it but don't let him make you feel less of a woman because you are REAL! Blessings my dear and I hope you guys can work it out but living in an empty relationship will only take the best from you so please don't let it.

Re: intimacy

PostPosted: Fri May 14, 2021 1:27 pm
by YellowTigerButterfly
He seems to be a narcissist with a narcissist mommy getting to him mentally, telling him stuff in his ear about you and your weight etc. He’s letting his Mommy influence too much of the relationship as he is searching for other narcissist “supply”. He already knows what you crave, touch as a love language, and he is doing a narcissist technique to deprive you of what you want so that you have to practically beg on him for your needs to be met while stringing you along. Maybe no one else realized the fact that your weight went down as a result of this says a lot! He’s sucking the energy out of you with this situation! Like a real energy vampire!

Re: intimacy

PostPosted: Sun May 16, 2021 9:36 pm
by Bee Davis
It's the porn.
Porn warps the mind

Re: intimacy

PostPosted: Thu May 20, 2021 7:47 pm
by Hrh2020
So sorry about your situation. I know how it feels. I've been there but just that yours is too much. A whole year? That's too much.

How long have you been together and when this this no kissing no hugging start?

What's his temperament? If he is a choleric, then that's normal. Cholerics are naturally not affectionate. However have a chat with him, let him know how his behaviour is affecting you and hopefully he will try to adjust.

2nd check yourself to be sure you have no faul odor as this could also be pushing him away and he is unable to tell you because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

Wishing you luck. It shall be well.

Re: intimacy

PostPosted: Fri May 21, 2021 8:31 pm
by Sugars40
Since its been so long.. give it another try. I feel your pain. I have been there at 1 point or another.
Try doing the abnormal.
If once upon a time you dressed up. Even if its to go to the grocery do so.
Think of what you did at the beginning and the first years of the relationship.
Make him remember. Sometime we have to initiate the move to rekindle.
I was told i was boring not sexy anymore.
It hurt but thinking about it.. life and all the hassle gets the best of us and we look for ways to make life easy.
Try it if you wish. Best of luck!