intimacy

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Re: intimacy

Postby yeshaswini_pk » Fri Jun 04, 2021 7:47 am

I've also faced a similar situation in my recent past, of course my issues were different, but I feel, the more we ask for it the more they repel.May be a walk together without asking for it & having tea together again without asking for it, let it all look spontaneous. I've done it all,now after 4-5 years we made love two consecutive days now.I'm connected to a nutrition community which is surprisingly helping me in saving my marriage....
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Re: intimacy

Postby Kpampin1208 » Sat Jun 05, 2021 9:09 pm

Actually I’ve been in the same boat for three years now and after I got stage 4 cancer and nearly didn’t make it last year he changed a lot he’s sweeter and all of that and so dedicated to me but it took a lot for him to somewhat show his feelings. So I cried myself to sleep for sometimes days and he was always distant cold and never French kissed me or ever has said something nice except love ya and now I finally understand some men are not like that at all and are brought up in a way that wasn’t their fault. But my husband has had past issues so I can def say that can be an issue for your husband and they don’t ever admit it or will accept therapy. Good luck to you stay strong and instead you need to learn a new approach like I did. Basically learn how to challenge him again and how to make him want you not the other way around because men like this don’t give a crap about love they want happiness which is different. Just change your tactics because me nagging and crying made it worse.
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Re: intimacy

Postby Kirstyxxxxx » Sat Jun 05, 2021 9:43 pm

I couldn't cope with that!!! But bless you,you need to have a strong conversation with him...the whole point of being in a relationship is feeling loved and feeling affection, If me and my partner don't kiss even for a day I get really worried... affection is the nicest thing ever. And it's not fair he isn't doing this even if he doesn't want to he should do it for you xx
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Re: intimacy

Postby Sandra1991 » Sun Jun 06, 2021 6:11 pm

Hi I have a similar cold partner. I hope someone can give me advice.

I met my husband when I was 16, we studied together in high school, we were in the same class. We were dating since 16 & we got married when we were 25. It’s been 5 Yrs now , we have a son who is 4 Yrs old. I uderstand that we are in a pretty long term relationship.
And now the love / romance in the relationship has gradually faded away. We are now caught up with work, parenting ,financial stress and also Covid stress. Because of Covid we stopped going out on dates, and slowly I realised that we stopped being intimate. It’s going to be almost two years of no s*x , no hugs , no kiisses or any form of physical love . I’m really frustrated. I don’t know what went wrong. When I try initiating intimacy, he rejects me . I have been rejected thrice n I don’t want to try again now. I even tried talking to my husband but he doesn’t really care .. I mean hez stuck with all the financial stress & Covid crisis on his business. I’m really worried I don’t want to stuck up in this phase for lifelong . We are turning 30 next month and it’s really frustrating to know that our s*x life is over by 30. Hez affectionate towards me in all other ways, but he doesn’t show it in any physical form. He surely loves me n takes good care of me but avoids getting close which really annoys me . I dono Wat to do and I’m really starting to show all the frustrations on him. I’m starting to criticise him a lot, I just feel like hurting him a lot coz of this one thing which is missing in our relationship. I’m trying my best to stay positive but I loose my cool once in three days. I end up fighting with him for even the smallest thing. Hez a very good dad, he takes equal responsibility in parenting. Hez very helpful towards me n very supportive but just avoids s*x. He also avoids any talk about s*x or any movie with sexual content. I don’t know what is wrong with him .. kindly give me some advice on how to tackle this .
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Re: intimacy

Postby Uwalove » Mon Jun 07, 2021 11:24 am

With the information you have given. It show that there may be more..you don't really want to share! Fare enough. But seek for help and try to fine out what is going on with your partner. Was he these way, when you first met or before you both got married? Ask question and be truthful about it. I wish you peace and love.
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Re: intimacy

Postby Nicky592 » Wed Jun 09, 2021 3:39 am

I'm sorry to hear this I hope things are better now but if it's still the same way. Hmmmm that's not normal most of the time if a man don't want to hug or kiss you and barely have s*x with you he's cheating
Not interested in you anymore
Not attracted to you
He's turned off by you or just got a lot on his mind and his thoughts are somewhere else.

But don't blame yourself love you deserve bette. If he can't get his act together and treat you right then don't stay.
It's going to be hard to leave but once you make a move it will eventually become easy and your feel better and gain your confidence back and love yourself
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Re: intimacy

Postby CJ_SK26 » Tue Jun 15, 2021 2:07 pm

You said you weighed more when he shew affection, do you think that might be the problem? You don't look like the person he was attracted to? My ex-husband told me once that he lost affection because I gained weight 🤷🏽‍♀️
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Re: intimacy

Postby Amanda38 » Sat Jun 19, 2021 4:12 am

No offense, but it seems to me that he's already mo ed on with someone else. He's just waiting on you to say something. You deserve better.
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Re: intimacy

Postby Alebabes » Tue Jun 22, 2021 10:50 am

Honestly babes idk if you still need advice but I’m younger and I feel that he may have either cheated and just have love for you and feel guilty. Or b it’s just boring you might want to try things he look at when he adds the porn or maybe take a pink pussy pill and use toys one night surprise him when he gets home one day and try oral and different tricks or one day just send pictures in lingerie giving anticipations to look toward to come hike than being a regular same day thing
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Re: intimacy

Postby Leebralove » Fri Jun 25, 2021 5:01 pm

I am the cold one in my marriage unfortunately. I don't crave that intimacy with my husband and it kills me just as much as kills him I'm sure of it. We recently separated because I can't take living like that way anymore. Have things gotten better between you two since you posted this?
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